WordPress tells me that this is my 100th blog post so I wanted to make it a special one. One of the topics I haven't written about yet is breastfeeding. This is because it's a highly emotive subject, certainly for me and many others, and it's one of those topics that everyone has an opinion about. I'm saving my breastfeeding journey for later but today I'm writing a post that I hope will be useful to both expectant and new parents and that will also be an interesting read for others.
It is difficult to categorise an accurate profile for those who choose a partner from a foreign culture. Yet, they are usually people who are not very connected to their own culture or who give it less importance. They could be seen as more exploratory or romantic people who see differences in culture as an adventure that make the experience more interesting and exciting. Many of them are rebels, who consciously or not, marry in protest or to distance themselves from their own culture, values, or family - or those who grew up in an international environment and it is natural for them to choose someone from another culture.
1. You will love more intensely than you ever thought possible For me it didn't come straight away. The boys had to go to the neonatal unit for a few days. I never got that rush of love as soon as they were born. We had to get to know each other slowly. Days were dark for the first three months and my mood was low, but after that 12 week mark a cloud seemed to lift and I started to go out to groups and meet other mums. I got slowly more confident and actually started to enjoy being a mum. Now even when they drive me absolutely crazy I just couldn't love them more. They amaze me every day. Sometimes I still can't quite believe they're mine, I'm so proud to be their mum.
When I posted the boys first day of school photo on Instagram/Facebook I said it was the day that I had been avoiding thinking about, in fact I was quite in denial about the whole thing. Well not totally because I had bought their uniform and I knew it was going to come around. I just really wasn't ready, even if the boys had been ready for quite a while. Actually they had been asking me for a whole year if they had finished nursery yet since some of their friends went to school in September 2015.
Having twins or multiples really is a unique experience. This post is about finding my confidence as a new mum and feeling judged by others. So what is it like for me being a mum of twins and coping with going to the supermarket or for a tea and cake in town? The most notable thing for me is the attention you get or should I say, the twins get. People are so interested, which is great but sometimes it can be overwhelming when you’re trying to cope with two babies/toddlers/pre-schoolers, you just want to be left alone to get on with it and not be met with people’s constant need to ask questions or to make comments.